Start over - Marisa Richelle Psychologist

We all have problems: health, couple, stress at work, with the education of children or those kilos of more that make us feel uncomfortable ... The beginning of the year gives us that motivation apex to improve certain habits and achieve our objectives. However, last January and ... How are these purposes go? The normal thing after a few weeks is that this initial motivation declines and we slowly return to our old vices. In this article I want to present one of the reasons why this vicious cycle occurs. I attach a graphic representation that describes our processes of doing and feeling. [! [] (https://animae.es/storage/186/captura-de-pantalla-2022-02-08-a-Llas-10.39.26.png)] ( https://animae.es/storage/186/captura-de-pantalla-2022-02-08-a-Llas-10.39.26.PNG) Nuestras Words betray our thoughts. Through what we tell ourselves and how we interpret our environment we will feel in one way or another, which will determine how we act. It seems logical, right? However, in our day to day we have countless thoughts and verbalize many of them unconsciously. Unfortunately we have a negative chip in our heads that makes us interpret in a pessimist way what happens to us. And so, day after day, "the autopilot" seizes us and abandon our purposes with a feeling of failure. Starting again becomes an obstacle. [! [] (https://animae.es/storage/188/cerebro-animae.jpg)] (https://animae.es/storage/188/cerebro-animae.jpg) #### I'm going to choose as an example the purpose of the beginning of the year of: "I want to do sports three times a week." What dialogue do we maintain with this goal?

• "I need to take away a few kilos from above, that I have put on Christmas, what a way of eating ...".
• “They say the sport is healthy. Let's see if I move at once. ”
• "I have to disconnect from work, take care of my diet and relax ... I have to stress and do sports, if it doesn't give me something."

This dialectic projects: 1) An internal need, because we don't like the exterior. 2) A desire to fit, since we choose objectives that society dictates to us. 3) An obligation that we self -impose. I do not intend to judge. It is true that sometimes our exterior moves us to seek solutions to our state, motivating us. What would retain you here is to ask you: What do I do what I do? What does it mean for me to succeed in this goal? We are going to observe how we talk to our day to day while trying to achieve our purpose: #### before a training:

• "I'm super tired, I don't know if I can do it 100%"
• "Again of the same, what a few desire"
• "I am super stressed ... with the good that is on the couch ..."

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during training:

• "I can't ..." today ... "I have to pick up my children, to buy, order the house, do dinner ..." You may have overcome training, but do you think this attitude helps to clear and get that long -term goal? #### Suggestions to improve:

1. Be aware of your way of speaking and little by little begins to replace it more real and compassionate with yourself. Example, instead of:

"I am super tired, I don't know if I can do it 100%" "Today I will start softly, without hurry. There are days that I am fully and others not so much. Nothing happens, I do even if it's 20 minutes, I know it will sit well. ” [! [] (https://animae.es/storage/191/animae-benidorm-copia-266x300.jpg)] (https://blog.animae.es/wp-content/uploads/202/02/animae-benidorm-copia.jpg) 2. Focus on what you want when doing sports. We tend to focus on the negative, the laziness that gives us and in the difficult exercise, but what if we pay attention to the feelings of after training? The feeling of overcoming, of feeling more relaxed, happy, of that warm shower and that beer of the end. Focus that moment of rest on the couch knowing that you have done the "debt".

Let's grant small awards for our effort. Why not? To play sports again is possible. For any questions, I'm here to help you! #### Marisa Richelle de Jong, a psychologist

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